Korinna McRobert

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Perspectives

Interpretation

Viewpoint

Perspective

People’s triggers

Where to be compassionate 

Where to let go

When to laugh at something

When to be angry

How much to expect and how much to ask for

When to separate and when to reconcile

How much can I actually understand

before compromising my own self-worth?

Diplomacy

Meaning double eyed in Greek

Two-sided or two-faced

striving for balance

looking out for both sides

a win-win situation

My body tells me

When I can’t breathe deeply enough

When I can’t digest properly

When I am trying to escape

even if I am sitting very still

When I don’t expect anything from anyone

And have no interest in making anyone feel comfortable

Because that ship sailed long ago

Enter at your own risk

I can’t hold your hand through your discomfort

when I am in agony

I never asked for your hand

so don’t snatch mine away from me

 

No

Saying no

to control

to protect

to make something wrong or right

to set a boundary

to expose our desires

When the no is nullified

When our no is not accepted

When we need to accept its unacceptance

When we do not

When no has no authority anymore

The bully still strikes

The rapist still rapes

The beater still hits

I always felt alone with my no

I always thought it was up to me

Now I am not so sure

I am starting to understand why laws exist

I am beginning to see the function of the police

even though I was taught to mistrust them

Feeling impotent because I said no and it was not respected

does not make it my fault

It just makes the other person a scumbag

The scum of which I had to wash off me

The scum of which probably will get smeared on others

I used to think my responsibility was to

warn others

tell my story as I see it

prevent it from happening again

Now I realised I excluded the one who disrespected my no

I overlooked all the hundred other factors

that contributed to whatever behaviour I was on the receiving end of

I took it personally

when I was probably just some kind of representation

and now all they are to me are

projections

case studies

fodder for my analytical methods

my learning curve

that lead me to

getting as far away from them as possible

Contextualised

When you go to a place

and realise where you came from

When you join a group

and know that your thoughts were also had by others

When you had a niggle and a feeling

and then you read about it somewhere

expressed so clearly and officially

When the light goes on

and you realised how much of your shit was in the dark

When you find what you need

not so far away from where you were searching

When you understand why some things are said

holding off on giving them validity

before you question them

When you realised you grew up

and are free

When you find your forever malleable and moveable place

in the whole

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